December 4, 2014

Bullying and Haters World

If you think i am gonna blabbering about how to make you girls and guys to stop bullying others so maybe that could make you think "Diras is so wise, she is so kind" NO. just to make it fair I am not gonna just play clean and say wise stuff right here without telling my story first.

back then when i was in high school i had some kind of 'mean girl' reputation. I bullied some girls and guys too. sometimes without any reason when i didnt like someone i didnt like her/him thats it i used to say mean jokes to boys or girls. everybody laughed, its funny, i felt like "BAAAM I am The Alpha Person" some juniors prefer didnt come into a canteen or a corridor when me and my friends was hanging around.

We girls have bad habit, most of us we dont really like each other that much because of what? we have some kind of competition in our mind about who look better? who dressed better? who's prettier? who's richer? who has the most handsome boyfriend?

and so on. its not just to girl friends but also strangers that we meet on the street, at the mall, at the club. admit it have you ever staring at a girl who wear super mini dress with your eyes full with hateness? boys are exceptional on this case you might see them with eyes full of lust hahahaha :D

so what are we doing if we see "threat"? in this case a girl who look pretty, she got all attention from guys around her, everytime she walk all eyes on her. i understand none of us want to feel defeat, none of us want to feel worthless. so what are we haters gonna do?

find the weakness
- if she wear mini dresses or shortie shorts lets just call her slut
- if she wear 1 kg make up just say that she's actually ugly its just make up
- if she looks like she has a lot clothes call her "MISS RICH WANNA BE" or in bahasa "Sok Kaya"

will you tell her all of those in front of her? telling all those shitty words to person that you barely know? of course not if we say all of those things in front of her we'll get slap later or maybe she's gonna report us to our teacher. its girls fight we should play it safe and in sneaky way. lets just talk about her behind their back to some of our friends that desperately need new gossip to talk about. how do i know all of these? i am an insecure girl once i felt that way too before and i did all of those coward actions too back then. and let me give you more gossip to talk about dear haters if you read this article.

here are some shitty things that i did to people.
1. Throwed mango juice on someone's face
2. Made a phisically mean jokes to (I was gonna wrote someone so it sounds better but okay) some classmates in front of them probably around 10-20 people.
3. Throwed a flashdisk when my annoying classmate asked for help (okay what i did is way more annoying)
4. used dorm mate's toothbrush to brush toilet
5. throw away my classmate's homework and she was failed on that class

those are 5 things that i want to admit to you girls my blog readers.
Of course there were some bad stuff that i did that i wont share right here cos the list gonna be never ending. i am so sorry that i did that if maybe one or some of my 'victim' read my blog. i am sorry if you ever bullied by some bastard like me. some of you probably happy to judge me right now and congratulation you've got new gossip to talk about. but i really am feel guilty and sorry about what i did.
i already make a promise to my self that i wont make anyone feel bad about them self because of what i am saying. if i just write some suggestion to stop bullying it will be easy. make a campaign about it, post some posters with "anti bullying" theme. So this is my guts admitting that i was wrong. if you boys or girls still bullying your classmate, or anyone you guys should stop. cos it doesnt make you any cooler or prettier. it just shows people that you are insecure, unhappy just like what i did back then.

how to respond if you are bullied by some jerk like me lol
1. dont respond AT ALL
i know its hard, but believe me people who bullying another are STARVING to get your reaction. to make you feel bad about your self, we are here to make you down. if you make even defense move its just make you pissed off later, dont let their negativity make you feel scared, lonely, sick.
2. Love your self
if they bullying you by saying something phisical, focus on the best thing about you and embrace it.for example you are a good friendly person, dont let people telling you ABOUT YOUR SELF cos you definitely know your self better than anyone. for example when someone call you slut and you are not, take it as compliment that they think you are sexy enough to be a slut but you are not one hahahaha
3. Tell your teacher/ parents/ siblings
We are bullying other but of course we dont want to involved into bigger problem like teacher or parents. if you ignore those bully maybe 2-3 weeks they will be bored and stop. but if things get phisically, if its getting more dangerous and they wont stop i suggest you dont hesitate to report to people who you are close with
4. Surround your self with lovely friends
usually bully doesnt always looks like one, they can be your friend in your CLOSE CIRCLE. but they often critictize you A LOT even small unimportant things it make you feel bad about your self. you dont really notice cos this type of bully not offensive DIRECTLY instead SLOWLY BUT SURE. usually they are the alpha male or alpha female in your close circle. So you dont really notice that you've got bully cos he/she seems so nice and you keep want to impress her/him. i mean who doesnt want to hang out with COOL PEOPLE. my suggestion to these type of bully just leave her, being with your real friends who dont need to criticize other to make them feel better.

so now you know how to deal with bullying from a bully right?
i really hope this article can be useful as my apologize cos i was such a worst person. right now from my circle of course there will always be 10% haters who wont stop bothering, but as you can read i had some experience in this stuff. things that i didnt mention is WAAAAAY MEANER than all your meanest words combine together. believe me at the end of the day take a look at your self in a mirror, you are still you, what they say doesnt change anything. when you know you are great there's no need to hate. ;)

last but not least i have no idea why i cant fix the space between this paragraphs,
its completely looks so wide and weird. it looks right on "editing page" but when i click "preview"
the space between paragraph get wider =3= somebody tell me how to fix it. >.<' and as always sorry for my bad english, i am trying my best but since it isnt my first language, you know :)
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November 21, 2014

a Story About Fabulous Sunglasses

every fashion blogger must have their favorite accessories collection. i really like sunglasses i barely go out without it. everytime i go out in afternoon i must have all the time with me.
when i go out in evening even tough it isnt that bright anymore i still have it with me.
when i go out around night well . . . ok i run out of reason to bring it hahaha maybe unless you are celebrity you have all flash light all the time pointing at you all the time then you have reason to bring it even around night :) 
Sunglasses are a form of protective eyewear designed primarily to prevent bright sunlight from damaging or discomforting the eyes. They can sometimes also function as a visual aid, as variously termed spectacles or glasses exist, featuring lenses that are colored, polarized or darkened.

"Healthcare professionals recommend eye protection whenever the sun comes out to protect the eyes from UV and blue light, which can cause several serious  eyeproblems." 

Dear God thanks to this blogger named Diras now we all officially has reason to bring sunglasses all the time with us hahahha Sunglasses have long been associated with celebrities and actors primarily from a desire to mask their identity. Since the 1940s sunglasses have been popular as a fashion accessory but now we are gonna move back long time ago before it was something cool.

In prehistoric and historic time, Inuit peoples wore flattened walrus ivory "glasses," looking through narrow slits to block harmful reflected rays of the sun. i am about to remind you guys to not make a joke about history but i swear it reminds me of

right? hahaha somebody you have to admit it looks like squidward's eyes!
ok back to the topic

The history of sunglasses is kinda dark, but their present and future are brilliant. It is said that the Roman emperor  Nero liked to watch gladiator fights with green emerald stones in front of their eyes to protect himself from the sun rays and to be able to watch the gladiator’s kills each other better. But until sometime between 1268 and 1289 that the first sunglasses appeared. According to other sources, it all started in 1352, when Italian painter Tomasso da Modena painted a portrait of a cardinal reading with eyeglasses. Back then, eyeglasses symbolized honour and prestige in society

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 in China in the 12th century or possibly earlier. Ancient documents describe the use of such crystal sunglasses by judges in ancient Chinese courts to conceal their facial expressions while questioning witnesses. Sunglasses continued to develop over the years. The frames used to be made of leather, bones and metal in order to hold still on the nose.  in the beginning of the 20th century, sunglasses started to achieve their true purpose. Sam Foster was the first one to sell sunglasses on a ready market on the beaches of Atlantic City, New Jersey apart from the protective purpose, became very fashionable.

To me sunglasses works as . . .

1. protective purpose from bright sunny day in Jakarta and also to protect me from old man who wont stop staring on the street.
2. it make me look good even tough i dont put on eyes makeup cos i wake up late no one one know anyway
3. it feels nice when you can stare as long as you want at a cute guy, he dont realize it cos my shades is too dark ;)
4. this one is a bit risky to say lets admit it bloggers it make you feels "cooler" than others who dont wear it hahahaha so it bring up attitude make you feel confidence
5. easy to wear accessory because i can wear it with casual style, semi formal, and of course formal style too

back then i was NEVER wear sunglasses cos i think it looks weird on me. when i was in junior school and high school i had really chubby cheek i wasnt know how to pick sunglasses frames that suit my round face. but time goes by my face wasnt as round as before it easier to pick sunglasses frames that suit me so yeah thats why it become my VERY favorite accessory. the last thing before im gonna end this post i want to give you some advise

"how to pick suitable glasses flatterring your face shape"

the main rule about how to pick the best glasses is pick the OPPOSITE SHAPE for example

- square face (wide forehead with define wide jaw line) = round glasses
- triangle face (wide around forehead and narrowest at the chin) = glasses with wider frames at the bottom
- round face (come on . . . everyone know round face softly rounded forehead, chin, with full cheeks) = square frame
- ouval face = congratulation you are save to wear everything, but slightly square frame works the best on you
I really hope you understand my advise but if you have
- weird face = if you find my advise is too confusing and you dont even know what your face type just wear whatever you want hahahaha REMEMBER THE KEY IS CONFIDENCE nothing else can beat that >u< 

ok thats it,  i hope you like this post cos i do some research about it and it takes a while to edit it and put it together and btw my blog currently has more than 100.000 pageviews thanks to some of you who keep reading. i know its not THAT BIG yet if you compare me to another IT BLOGGERS. but i still grateful about it. i am gonna keep try my best in blogging. cos well its important to keep doing thing that makes you happy, isnt it? ;)

see you again on my next blog post.

November 12, 2014

Free The Nipple

These issue is such a thing in fashion industry, Free The Nipple
some women disagree with american laws where it is illegal for a women to appear topless in 38 states in US. In fashion runway it isnt a surprise if you see a model wearing sheer top showing their nipple since quite a while, but since Free the Nipple campaign become quite a thing lately
designer shows their support even more than before.
The 'Free the Nipple' campaign is an equality movement that uses social media and film to fight against censorship laws in the US which is two biggest website facebook and instagram.
show some nipple you are not gonna log in for a while :D

This is Scout Willis caused quite the stir when she strolled topless through New York City to protest internet censorship, but it seems like she's part of an even bigger movement.
On Sunday, about 20 male and female inspired by Scout Willis took to Washington Square Park in the name of the same cause, proudly parading around topless and trying to recruit more activists to join them.

Meanwhile Wioletta Komar said she was forced to feed her baby outside in the rain after being told breastfeeding was against Sports Direct's company policy. Nottinghamshire Breastfeeding Mums Network organised the mass "feed-in" protest at the store in Clumber Street, Nottingham.She said the shop assistant saw her start to cry after telling her to leave.
"It was the way she spoke to me and her whole attitude - she was just so rude, and I felt so upset and embarrassed," said Mrs Komar, who has not breastfed in public since then."I still feel depressed about it and can't forget about that bad experience."I can't understand why a baby has to be punished or being hungry and why I need to feel like a criminal when I just want to feed my baby son."Sports Direct declined to comment.
i think It is unlawful for a business to discriminate against a woman because she is breastfeeding a child, meaning shops should not ask breastfeeding women to leave. because of  Wioletta Komar's case where Sports Direct told her to leave the shop cos of breast feeding 40 protest were held, hundreds of women were breastfed in some Sport Direct stores

Here's the thing i live in Indonesia, the largest moslems country but to me personally.
i think these are example of discrmination to a women. every human being have rights
to express them self through fashion. every mothers have rights to breastfeeding their
baby in public. what is it about nipple that make you guys so afraid?
maybe it causing temptation and it is a sin according to religion?  i respect people
who think that way. but people who are afraid of sexuality shouldnt DISRESPECT other
who don’t think that way.
if you call some women are exhibitonist because showing their boobs, if you think
they are starving for attention from boys YES THEY ARE but those are their tits, their image, their reputation, their own problem. if you dont like their tits do they force you to keep looking?
if you are so innocent you dont like anything sexual, cant you admit you never
watch porn or thinking about sexual thing even a bit? If you say yes,
you are a big lier.
why men can show their man boobs with hairy chest but women cant?
even though i am not gonna go out topless, it isnt because i live in largest mostlem country.
its just not me, there's an element of 'surprise' in every women.
to me sexy isnt just about wearing sexy clothes. you can be sexy by
the way you think, by the way you act. but to some other women specially mother
with hungry baby THEY HAVE FULL RIGHT to breastfeeding in  
public. to exhibisionist women in US who wanna go topless GO FOR IT.
These are some celebrities photos who support Free the nipple

rihanna's tits on CFDA red carpet

Cara Delevingne's twitter who give support to an activist Scout Willis who walk around topless
at NYC street.

of course 'the hardcore' Miley Cyrus. she wear tank top with boobs pict printed on it.
i know this isnt like my usuall outfit post but i just wanna give my opinion about these issue. i hope you guys like this post, let me know what are you thinking. are you disagree with me, have you ever go out braless? hahahaha drop some comments let me know what you're thinking
LOVE, Diras.

October 28, 2014

The Youth Pledge

so last thursday i had collaboration with Nostalgia Photography.
we met on 12 pm. we were supposed to met at 11 am
but i came late, so sorry. i amaze how he really passionate about creating
photograph, we were talking about our street style concept.
we want it to be "really street", and really Jakarta with scribble on the wall
and everything. so after we met up at mall we took cab searching for
the right spot. and here it is we stop our cab at some random street under bypass road.
its quite sad that Jakarta street mostly isnt clean
i wish people who live in this city can be more responsible.
i publish this post on october 28, 2014.
in Indonesia 28 october is The Youth Pledge (Hari sumpah pemuda)
it was a declaration made on october 28, 1928 by young indonesian
nationalist in the second youth congrest (kongres pemuda dua)
they proclaimed three ideals

"one motherland, one nation, and one language"

so in the spirit of "Sumpah Pemuda" where everyone wore "blankon"
i also wear my heart patterned headband i am gonna make a swear too.
"i will be forever young, keep creating, keep inspiring be a better person
of my self to people around me." :)

headband naughty, sunglasses by rayban, earings all little things
she needs, tank top and jeans made in Indonesia, bracelet by PopaGoods, shoes converse

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they have alot beautiful prewedding pictures, human interest
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xo Diras

October 15, 2014

magical school

so i am thinking "if i go to magical school in a castle,
what am i gonna wear?" 
this look inspired by a castle in City of Bones movie but i adapt it into my style.
i think COB isnt that great movie, but i personally really like Jamie Bower. 
its some kind of a movie for girls. that kind of movie with so many romance between
a pretty girl and hot guy. its pretty much twilight boys gonna hate it lol
so yeah enjoy this post xo

unicorn jumper ready stock at PopaGoods shipping for Indonesia.
black plaid skirt well i draw it and requested a tailor to make it for me.
sock by socks gallery. flat shoes by all little things she needs.
its a present from my friend Astrit.(thanks astrit i love it )

triangle gold necklace by Forever 21, ring by popagoods

if  you are too lazy to read my blog kindly meet me on instagram @ItsDiras ^^
dont be shy to say hi, i am following back another fashion and beauty bloggers
thanks for visiting my blog
see you on my next post. have a lovely fabulous day.

xo Diras.

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October 10, 2014

Eat art loud

hi boys and girls i am back again with event report which i  visited last weekend.
last weekend i was visited an event called Eat Art Loud at Grand Indonesia Mall. there were
talkshow, games, cooking demonstration and of course bazaar. they had so many booths that sell accessories, unique fashion items, art piece, home decoration, and the most mportant FOOD BOOTHS for culinary lovers. even they serve the food in artistic and unique way. how about your weekend guys? i hope you guys had a fun weekend too like me and my bestie Lintang. pssst actually on that day there were two guys asked Lintang to go out on a date with her but she rejects them cos she want to attend this event >u< (ps sorry guys)

btw some square pics on this post arent mine, it from some instagram account
cos there were so many people it impossible to get clear shots specially for main gate and those Eat art loud background instalation on first picture. so yeah i hope you guys enjoy this post, dont forget to leave some comments if you like it, i'll publish another new post at october 15th, 2014.
i'll see you again in 5 days ^^
kisses Diras.

halo aku balik lagi kali ini waktunya liputan event yang aku kunjungi akhir pekan kemarin,
aku datang ke salah satu event seru di Grand Indonesia yang bernama Eat Art Loud.
Eat Art Loud itu sendiri berisi talk show, demo masak, games, bazaar mulai dari 
aksesoris, fashion item unik, karya seni, dekorasi rumah, dan yang paling penting
banyak makanaaaaan yang bahkan dikemas dalam bentuk unik juga.
akhir pekan kemarin kalian kemana? semoga kalian juga seru seruan kayak aku sama temenku ya.
seperti biasa aku datang event sama teman seperjuangan aku bernama Lintang.
psssst padahal hari itu Lintang diajak nge-date sama dua cowo
yang 2-2nya ditolak karena bela-belain mau dateng acara ini, 
kalau aku sih emang ga laku ngaku aja lol

oh iya, beberapa foto yang berbentuk persegi di post ini hasil aku
unggah ulang dari beberapa instagram orang lain yang berkunjung ke Eat Art Loud juga.
karena pas aku datang benar-benar ramai.
ga memungkinkan untuk dapat clear shots karena penuh pengunjung.
semoga kalian suka post ini ya sampai ketemu lagi di post aku berikutnya

muah! Diras


See ya' ^u^/

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